Coming off last weeks theme of positivity, this week we are focusing on LOVE. But not just any love, SELF LOVE!
Loving yourself is one of the hardest yet most important things you must do in this life. Being able to love yourself, allows others to love you more deeply.
How does this work? Well, when you deprive yourself of your own love, you tend to look to others for those feelings that you’re not giving to yourself… such as self-worth, safety, security, and joy. In the absence of this, you feel anxious, jealous, empty, alone, angry or depressed.
Loving yourself can make all of those feelings disappear.
When you take responsibility for your feelings such a joy, happiness, worth, security, calm, approval, and trust, we stop seeking validation for those feelings from others… which in turn gives us more happiness, joy, fulfillment, security and peace of mind.
The beauty in self-love is that it provides instant gratification.
Here are a few things you can start doing now to start loving yourself more: #1 - If a thought about yourself doesn’t make you feel good, it’s not a loving thought. So flip it over and change into one that is or do something to make yourself feel better. Shut down that inner self-critic and bring out the gentler more loving voice from within.
#2 - Don’t look for validation, approval or affection from others. Look within. Trust yourself and your gut, give yourself approval and use kind words. If you missed my last post, I suggested you make a list of all the words you can use to describe the best things about yourself. Keep that list where you can see it as a reminder.
#3 - Understand the difference between fear and limiting beliefs. “I’m not good enough, smart enough, educated enough, talented enough…” These are you placing limits on yourself. They are BULLSHIT! Flip them over and change them to a positive statement and believe in yourself. You are good enough. You are smart enough. You are talented enough. You are beautiful. When you say it over and over, you start to believe it. #4 - Learn to cultivate self-compassion. Self-compassion opens you up to be more mindful and to stop judging yourself. Practicing self-kindness - treating yourself nicer rather than harshly and allowing yourself to be human - we all make mistakes… learn from them and move on rather than beat yourself up about them.
#5 - Love the skin you're in! Your body is your machine. It's the engine that runs everything. When you feed it, hydrate it, give it rest, exercise it... you are providing it with all that you need to function. A healthy meal give your brain the positive energy it needs to get through the day. Exercise makes you feel better because you produce chemicals that physical change your mental state. So, give your body the tons of love it needs and deserves and it will return the favor a million times over.
Go give yourself a big self-hug and some major self-love. You Deserve IT!
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